They dressed to the nine's. The husband wore Stacey Adams shoes, Pierre Cardin suits and splashed on Kenneth Cole cologne. His wife? She wore her red bottom Louboutin sling-backs, Donna Karan off-the-shoulder dress, a splash of Fendi, and carried her Gucci purse. They were the image of success. Or what about the family who attended church every time the doors were opened? Or what about the senior couple,both in their middle 70's, You could never tell by looking at this couple that there was anything wrong in their relationship. You could never tell by looking at any one of these individuals that they were entangled by emotional bondage. In the last blog I said that when you are emotionally bound, you spend more time dressing up your outer self, maybe not wearing Stacey Adams, or carrying a Gucci purse, but, still the intent is to cover up the hurt and pain, to dress it up so that no one notices.
WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE 'BOUND? TO BECOME A SLAVE?
The word 'bound' means to 'be enslaved.' The definition of a 'slave' is 'a person who is the legal property of another and is forced to obey their owner.' As an African American, I understand all too well the history in this country of how Africans, my ancestors, became enslaved in America. Africans were brought to this country to work the fields of their slave masters and lived as indentured servants for over 260 years. The term 'slavery' as defined by Webster's Dictionary is 'involuntary servitude: serfdom, the state of being bound by or subjected to some external power or control, the state or practice of being physically restrained, as by being tied up, chained, or put in handcuffs'
When someone is emotionally bound, they are enslaved by the person who keeps them in bondage. They are emotionally hand-cuffed, yet, there is no sight of visible restraints. They do not have the freedom to explore life, they do not have the freedom to gain a sense of who they are in Christ Jesus. They lack the freedom to make choices for themselves. They lack the freedom to think for themselves, not the ability to think for themselves, but the freedom. This is caused by the one who is emotionally abusive, the perpetrator, who continually speaks death to their spirit, by constantly saying and speaking negatives words ,which causes the emotionally bound person to live in a constant state of fear.
PRAYER CHANGES THINGS
Yet, the emotionally bound person puts on a smiley face when they leave their mansion or their humble abode. But here is the truth: you can only dress up hurt for so long. Hurt shows up in different forms: depression over eating, under eating, insomnia,being performance oriented or a people-pleaser. Psalm 46:1 says, "God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble." Begin living like you are a Philippians 4:6 believer: "Do not be anxious for anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God."
DON'T GIVE UP! THERE IS HOPE and HELP FOR YOU!
IF YOU CAN IDENTIFY WITH THE INFORMATION SHARED IN THIS BLOG, DON'T BE DISCOURAGED, YOU CAN BE SET FREE! DON'T GIVE UP. PRAY AND ASK GOD TO HELP CHANGE YOUR SITUATION, TO CHANGE YOUR HEART AND THE HEART OF THE ONE PERPETUATING THE EMOTIONAL ABUSE.
Remember, trouble don't last always!